Dating after 50
Are you over fifty and curious about what sort of things you might need to know about getting into dating again? If so, then worry not! We have a few rules for you to keep in mind when you begin your dating adventures once again.
Whether this is your first time or you’re an expert, there’s something here for everyone!
5 Rules for dating after 50
When it comes to dating over fifty, there can be as many rules or tips or tricks as you can think up for someone half that age. However, that doesn’t mean there aren’t some valuable key rules to keep in mind while you begin to date. In fact, these are some rules that work especially well for seniors:
1. Waiting for sex
While anyone could benefit from exercising a little patience when it comes to sex, people who are over 50 shouldn’t feel compelled to jump into the sack with a partner right away. It’s important for you to wait for the right time to move on to sex, not only because the comfort of both people is important for anyone over 50, but also because it is important to make sure that safe sex is being practiced. Until you have a conversation with your partner about their sexual habits and history and whether they are practicing safe sex, wait for sex.
2. Bond over the better things
No matter your reasons for jumping back into the dating game after 50, it is important to keep a budding relationship positive. Share details with each other that are encouraging, happy, and fulfilling, and find connections that reflect the better things in your life. You don’t want to associate a new romantic relationship with something that you find personally tragic or traumatic.
3. Don’t stalk or bend over backwards
this is to really say that you should learn what the appropriate balance is between contacting your partner is and what you should be willing to compromise on. If your potential partner slowly stops responding to you, or just stops altogether, then it may be a sign that they aren’t interested in a relationship with you. While hurtful, don’t make things any worse by stalking them or hoping for them to come around to you if you keep sending them messages. Learn to move on and look for the next match. Additionally, don’t make concessions all the time to please your partner. While it is true that relationships are built on finding a balance of pleasing both partners, you shouldn’t have to do things you dislike or give up things that make you happy just to please this other person.
4. Don’t be afraid to be flirty
Even if you have started dating, flirting with your new partner can keep things light and fun for both you and the other person. Keeping your relationship fun and exciting, whether it is through flirting with one another or just enjoying yourselves is important in the longevity of the relationship.
5. Be confident in yourself
Even before you start dating, but also while you are dating, it is important to be confident in who you are and what makes you special. This is true for everyone really and applies beyond dating. However, for seniors who are looking to get into the world of online dating, there can be concerns over their age or looks that maybe lead to doubt. The reality is that no one is perfect and that’s fine. If you are happy with yourself and with who you are, then so will others.
Things to be careful of when dating
As a quick reminder, it is always worth being careful when you begin dating online and as you continue to date online. Firstly, never send money to anyone online, even if they give you the impression that they are trustworthy. You can never tell if you aren’t being scammed, so just don’t.
On that note, never give any of your personal information to strangers or people you meet on dating sites. This includes personal address, phone numbers, credit card and social security numbers, banking information, and anything of the sort. Only give a phone number if you are meeting up.
When you do first meet up, make sure it is in a public space with plenty of people around. Make sure that your friends and family know you are meeting someone up, and give them the time and address so that if something does happen, they will know where you are and when.
Most importantly, follow some common sense when it comes to matching and meeting with people. If they seem sketchy or a little off, then just avoid it and move on to the next person. You aren’t obligated to maintain a conversation or relationship, so look out for number one!
Read the following article, if you want to find out more about how to get started with dating over 50!